He is afraid that he caused his wife’s death

He is afraid that he caused his wife’s death
My wife died recently (pregnancy complications) and during 5-8 months pregnancy period, me and my wife quarrel on some issue and I did not telephone her for 3 months. When she admitted in the hospital on her serious condition, I came back to from Saudi Arabia and I met my wife in the hospital and we forget about our issue of quarrel. I kiss her and spend a lot of time in the hospital sitting with her and pursuade her that Inshallah she will be alright and I spend nearly 15,000 S.R towards medical expenses but she died. Q:1) Is she died because I was not talking to her on the telephone and she took this matter seriously in her heart ? Q:2) My mother-in-law blames me for the cause of her daughters heart because I was not sending sufficient money for her because my mother wants my wife to stay in our home rather then she stays with her parents. My mother told me that if I send money she will not come back to our house, so I used to send only little money. Is that could be the cause of my wife dealth as my mother-in-law said ? Please help me and I feel very much guilty upon hearing my mother-in-laws words as I can not sleep properly and feeling quilty. It was a love marriage and we quarrel on small issue sometimes, but I never wants her death.

 

Praise be to Allaah.
 

Firstly: we ask Allaah to shower your wife with His mercy and
to record for her the reward of martyrdom, because the Prophet (peace
and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Martyrdom is of seven types
besides being killed (in jihad) for the sake of Allaah,” and among them he
mentioned the woman who dies because of pregnancy or childbirth. Narrated by
Abu Dawood, 3111; al-Nasaa’i, 1846; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani. And we
ask Him to help you and her family to bear this loss with patience and to
compensate you in this world and in the Hereafter. 

Secondly: there is no doubt that life and death are in the
hand of Allaah and that the time of death and life-spans are decreed by His
will. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“Who has created death and life that He may test you which
of you is best in deed”

[reading quran online, al-Mulk 67:2] 

“Laa ilaaha illa Huwa (none has the right to be worshipped
but He). It is He Who gives life and causes death”

[al-A’raaf 7:158] 

No one has the power to benefit or harm another except by
Allaah’s leave. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)
said: “The Holy Spirit inspired to me that no soul will ever depart this
world until it has completed its allotted time and used up its allotted
provision, so do not be too desperate when seeking provision. If you feel
that provision is slow in coming, do not try to hasten it by disobeying
Allaah, for that which is with Allaah can only be attained by obeying Him.”
Narrated by al-Tabaraani, 8/166; classed as hasan by al-Albaani). 

Thirdly: Islam enjoins kindness. The Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Allaah has prescribed kindness in
all one’s affairs.” Narrated by Muslim, 1955. The Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him) even spoke of a woman who went to Hell
because of a cat that she detained until it died. Narrated by al-Bukhaari,
2365; Muslim, 2242. 

To what degree then do you think Islam enjoins kindness
towards one’s wife– one’s companion in this world and in the Hereafter?  

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)
said: “I urge you to treat women kindly.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 3331;
Muslim, 1468. 

Imam al-Tirmidhi narrated a hadeeth (1163) which he classed
as hasan, and al-Albaani agreed with him, according to which the Prophet
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, during the Farewell
Pilgrimage: “They (women) are like prisoners in your hands.” 

It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with
him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:
“The most complete in faith of the believers are those who have the best
attitude, and the best of you are those who are best towards their
womenfolk.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 1162; classed as hasan by al-Albaani. 

Fourthly: If you know from the above that you fell short in
your duty towards your wife, by cutting off communication with her when she
was sick and was most in need of you, and the quarrel between you was about
some minor issue, as you mention, then how could you fall short in spending
on her, for spending on one’s wife is obligatory according to the Qur’aan
and Sunnah, and scholarly consensus, as it says in al-Mughni (9/229)?
If your mother told you to do something other than that, you should not have
obeyed her, because there is no obedience to any created being if it
involves disobedience towards the Creator. Your feelings of shortcoming and
sin are appropriate. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon
him) said: “Righteousness is a good attitude, and wrongdoing is that which
wavers in your heart and which you dislike people finding out about.”
Narrated by Muslim, 2553. 

But this sin should not be regarded as the cause of your
wife’s death, because it is not directly connected to it and such things do
not usually kill a person. You mentioned in your question that she died
because of complications in pregnancy. And you did well – may Allaah reward
you with good – by sitting with her in her last days and spending on her.
Your doing these things will be an expiation for you in sha Allaah. 

Our advice to you is to pray a great deal for forgiveness for yourself and for her, and make du’aa’ for her, give in charity on her behalf, honour her family and uphold your ties with them and treat them kindly; put up with any bad treatment you may encounter from them because of the loss of their daughter; and let what happened be a lesson for the future so that it does not happen again. 

And Allaah knows best.

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